Social Networking Article: Why Most Professionals Fail at Social Networking

Stand Out in Your Networks

Stand Out in Your Networks

Ever wonder why some people get a ton of referrals, business and results with Social Networking and others don’t?  If you think about it, it is quite simple.  People stink at building relationships.  Let’s face it….the majority of professionals today are chasing money.  They are so focused on “conquering” and are all about “what is in it for me” instead of thinking “What can I do for you?”.

The concept of giving to get seems to have been lost for many.  Let’s take a look at traditional networking.  They say the difference between regular folks and regular folks who are millionaires is one thing….networking.  If you aren’t networking, then you aren’t serious about your business.

Is it enough to just network?  NO!  For just a moment think about the last networking opportunity you attended.  Here is what a typical situation looks like…..people show up (for the most part), they have their business cards ready, they start chatting with whomever they come across, they immediately find ways to talk about their business, they might ask the other person a few questions (just to be polite), they force their business card on them and then go onto the next person.  Most professionals are more concerned about what is being served for lunch versus the people they are meeting.

So let’s try this again…..imagine this….

  1. You call the organizer of the networking group ahead of time to find out who are the top professionals they recommend you connect with.
  2. You show up with the intention of meeting 2-3 of these highly recommend professionals.
  3. When you find these 2-3 people, you let them know you specifically came to meet them and ask if you can learn more about their business.
  4. You then ask them 5-6 on point and targeted questions all geared around understanding how you might be able to assist them.
  5. You then let them know (only if you can) that you would like to refer business to them.  Could you schedule a one on one so you have more time to learn about them.
  6. You schedule that appointment on the spot.
  7. You thank them for their time, ask them for their card and let them know you will be confirming the appointment with them.
  8. You move to find the next person.
  9. After the meeting, you send a handwritten thank you card telling them why you are grateful you met them and what you are most looking forward to in your meeting.
  10. You send them an email thanking them, confirm your meeting and send them a simple agenda for the meeting.
  11. A day before you send them a reminder email along with you cell phone number.
  12. You call them the day before to let them know how excited you are about the meeting and how wonderful it will be to refer them business.
  13. You meet with the person and use the agenda you created to learn about their ideal client, what a good referral looks like and to generate a list of 2-3 possible connections you can make for them.
  14. After the meeting you send them another handwritten thank you card telling them why you admire them and 3 things you learned in your meeting.
  15. You send a follow up email thanking them for the meeting and provide a list of the 2-3 people you plan on connecting them to.
  16. You then send an email to the person and the person you want to connect them to. In the email you give a brief introduction for each person and the reason why you are connecting them.  You then designate one person to make it their responsibility to set up a meeting.  You state what you feel the purpose of their meeting.
  17. You then follow up with the person you originally met with and schedule another meeting to talk about what happened for them.

This may sound like a lot of steps for networking.  For me, if I am going to do something then I am going to maximize my time and money.  If you don’t plan on generating results and don’t care about referrals then don’t follow the 17 steps.

I am continually amazed at just how “careless” and ineffective business professionals are at networking.  Time is money.  It takes about 3-5 hours to attend a networking event.  (You have to include drive time, preparation and the actual meeting – this does NOT include follow up – most professionals skip the follow up)  For me, every professional I meet is another person for a great relationship.  It is about the quality of your meeting not the quantity.  Most will tell you, they never forget me if they met me at a networking event.

Social Networking is NO different than traditional networking…..it is just done online.  You can do the exact same 17 steps with Social Networking.  Imagine what would happen if you did.

So what are you planning on doing right now to make a difference in ALL of your networking efforts?  Online and Offline.  I would love to hear your thoughts.

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12 Responses to “Social Networking Article: Why Most Professionals Fail at Social Networking”

  1. Keith Binkley Says:

    I am going to send an e-mail to the people that I met at a growth group this morning so that they see that I enjoyed meeting them and look forward to sending them referrals.

  2. socialnetworkingrockstar Says:

    That is great. Watch what happens when you hand write a thank you note to them. It seems hardly anyone sends snail mail any more. Let me know what results you generate.

  3. will Says:

    Sabrina,
    Every once in a while I see something and think wow this person has it all together. However with this post it’s PURE Gold. I now see what I’ve been missing. It’s apparent what I can do to get into the 1% group of people that will always be remembered by their contacts. These 17 steps will make me stand out from the 99% crowd who do not take the time to really get to know their contacts.

    Thanks,

    Will

  4. socialnetworkingrockstar Says:

    Hi Will –
    What a huge compliment. I am excited to hear about your success. Please be sure to come back and share what breakthroughs you have experienced.

  5. Lisa Larter Says:

    Hi Sabrina
    First time I have been to your site. What a pleasant find.

    Love this post, and have shared it with my friends on Facebook, may who network regularly.

    You have nailed it, the problem is most people run through the room (or via SM profiles) collect a bunch of business cards/emails and then add them to their newsletter list. Bad examples of networking.

    Next time I get one of those newsletters I am going to reply with a link to this post. Help them get it right!

    Lisa

  6. Judy Greenough Says:

    You are so spot on! Another example of “Power versus Force”, and why attending most functions totally sucked my energy. What I knew all along is what you inspire me to do more of now that I venture into the social networking realm – I call it “conscious connection” with no attachment to any results other than how good that feels.

  7. socialnetworkingrockstar Says:

    Thank you. I found I shifted a ton when I started to value the time I was investing in EVERYTHING I was doing. Networking is not something you necessarily learn. I think a lot of people just “show up” and hope for the best. When you live your life by design, showing up is like playing Roulette….every once in awhile you nail it. SMILE

  8. socialnetworkingrockstar Says:

    Hi Lisa,

    That is funny about sharing the post with all the newsletters. I call it “Conquer Mode”. Everyone is out to conquer….instead of interact and create relationships. If you look at real pros like Mari Smith and Mark Joyner they are masters at building quality relationships. I definitely believe in quality vs. quantity. Let me know what questions, topics or other information I can share to make a difference.

    Big hugs,
    Sabrina

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  10. Heidi Mann Says:

    Sabrina,

    A very well-laid-out and motivating post! Of course, I’ve learned this from you in your class, but it’s helpful to review it again and see it all laid out point by point.

    My sister once laughed at my mom for the idea of sending a hand-written thank-you note to someone with whom she’d had an interview, but I am with you all the way on that! It’s so rare nowadays that you would automatically stand out just by doing that!

    Thanks again!
    Heidi

  11. Antwan Leavigne Says:

    This is a very nice update – thanks for sharing.. definitely going to bookmark!

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